Your physical attractiveness is a minor factor in how successful you will be with women. I don’t mean to imply that you can be fat and hideous yet still get laid, but you can be average looking or even somewhat below average and still get laid more than a handsome man. This can be hard for men to understand because looks are so important to us. The fact is that being well dressed, carrying himself with confidence and being famous are as important to a man as physical beauty is to a woman.

Many men fall into the trap of believing that their physical attractiveness determines if they will be successful with women. When faced with failure in the sexual marketplace these men immediately turn to improving their physical appearance. They dedicate themselves to the gym and begin putting on muscle. After some time in the gym these men believe they’ll be better able to pick up women, but they still fail if their mindset stays weak.

While I recommend that everyone get regular exercise and eat right, a man is better served by dressing well, good grooming and confidence if his goal is to pick up women. Six pack abs won’t do anything for you if your creepiness drives the girl away before she can see them. Good looks may help open the door, but confidence and presentation are what usually decide whether the girl stays interested or not. A clean appearance and a calm attitude often do more than a better body ever will.

Many of these men eventually give up; they figure their face is too ugly, or that they don’t have the genetics to make enough progress in the gym. They wait around for random chance to bring them some homely chick to wife up. These men are losers. A better approach is to build the habits that actually create attraction and not hide behind the fantasy that muscle alone will solve everything. Real improvement comes from learning how to carry yourself like a man who already belongs.